Marriage Affairs as a Doorway to Unconditional Love
Marriage Crisis and Affairs of the Heart
FIRST PUBLISHED September 2011
In the last year *(written 2012) I have personally experienced a lot about conscious relationship and love. …Although I posted one previous blog during a particularly sorrow-filled moment, I’ve not been able to share this vulnerably painful and beautiful experience …until now.
I do so, with this prayer: that my personal sharing may serve others in long term relationship and marriages that are conflicted, confused, in crisis, or the midst of an affair.
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There is a path between the most obvious ones of staying or leaving; love and resentment; freedom and dying inside. It is “the middle way” – the way of presence, patience and revelation. This middle way is beyond right or wrong, and pledges it’s allegiance to that which is most honoring to the path of Life itself.
“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about.” – Rumi
My Story from that Field Beyond:
I and my SoulArts partner, and now husband Matt, had been together for 7 years when it happened. This past year (“the 7 year itch year”) was a true breakthrough year for both of us.
Over 2 decades ago and coming home on a plane from Europe, I met the one man I believed then I’d truly loved and wanted to have a family with. Circumstances then did not permit it and we went separate ways with tender tears — he to Harvard, I to Ojai and 2 decades of spiritual depth study.