Finding the Insights within the Wounds
Speaking Truth for One's Own Sake
Stopping the Overthinking Mind to Hear Heart
Honoring Life as a Journey
Finding Clarity and Honoring Decisions

"WAY BEYOND TALK THERAPY" ~ For Couples Seeking a Nurturing Oasis for Deep Looking, Personal Growth & Honorable New Paths 

Retreat Closed due to COVID (email for special emergency arrangements)

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Truth-Honoring Marriage & Relationship Counseling Retreat for Couples & Families Seeking Breakthrough Clarity, Healing, and New Ways of Communicating


Clarity at a Crossroads

We offer a few private retreat options for couples at present.*

*Both are normally 2-nights (most often starting Friday 5pm and ending Sunday noon.  Midweek options on request.

  • The "Couples Clarity at a Crossroads" Retreat Intensive (including issues of dysfunctional relating, infidelity, loss of a child, or other relational trauma in need of healing, forgiveness, personal growth /responsibility, and "cut to the chase clarity" as to how, or if, to continue as a couple ...and how to make this shifting movement from a place of honor and truth.)

  • The "Marriage-Partnership as Spiritual Journey" Retreat Intensive (including next layers of personal-growth and relational vision for the energetic mystery of marriage as living meditation. Utilizes deepening experience with Soul Counsel for Couples alongside a playful honoring practice and take home tool of shared creative life-making-love-making in daily action.

  • The Stay Home Guided Mentoring Retreat - Couples Private Intensive (basically the same as the 2-Night Retreats with Ronda above but adapted to online with no travel required.  It is best suited to those couples who remain committed and seeking improved relations and personal growth (rather than to couples at serious odds or crisis) and who are not able to travel to Ojai. 

This soulful and holistic in-residence all-inclusive weekend approach to relationship is specifically designed to end the stuck trappings of old patterns and circular talk by helping you cut to the chase and empower a new form of personal clarity, self-healing direction, and a clean way for honoring each person's path.

These couples retreat intensives are designed for lasting breakthrough and direct take-home tools that go beyond the bounds of traditional talk therapy.

The 2-night private couples retreat offers a place of personal renewal and respect for one another's path and truth of the heart.

Ronda and her husband, Matt Clements, participate together in much of this mentoring process and hosting as guests at our home, making for a very natural and shared depth process with opportunities to speak privately with each of us as well as our sharing of the Soul Counsel for Couples protocol TM that transformed our lives. (See more on Youtube Channel). You also have a high level of personal privacy and big spaces of time separate from Ronda and Matt while enjoying the property and your guided inner truth searching process.

A short telephone conversation after both partners have read and feel an interest in knowing more, is always encouraged and often very helpful. Please see details to receive pricing, structure and who this is best suited for, then let's have a conversation!


Open to all sexual orientations; married, premarital, and or domestic life partners of genuine respect and maturity.

Husband and Wife team, Ronda LaRue, M.S. & Matt Clements, RIA Financial Advisor, share in this personal guided depth process.  Couples have invariably commented that our unique open approach and Soul Counsel for Couples Communication (TM) made a huge difference as models for themselves as well as the specific individual take home tools.  Professional men in particular have appreciated Matt's openness, availability and gentle manner of speaking.

(See Ronda's own transparent and vulnerable sharing of her personal experience with our personal story of shared growth from an emotional affair in this section of her writings)

Statistics ~ Those who have attended


Couples who have come to these SoulArts Private Couples Healing and Marriage Counseling Retreats have:

  • Ranged in ages from early 30's to mid 70's;

  • Many have tried traditional counseling and found it wasn't working for them. And many have been referred by their therapists;

  • Most are new to a soul-finding depth process but have a soulful sense of life and recognize the need to find new solutions;

  • Many different cultural orientations and professional vocations are reflected -- i.e., we have worked with police officers, professional chefs, attorneys, sales executives, therapist's and celebrities to name a few;

  • Couples have flown in from as far away as Dubai, New Zealand, Switzerland, England, New York, Texas, Colorado, Puerto Rico, Hawaii, Canada, and from throughout the State of California;

  • Most are married (including same sex couples) and some are in committed relationship or entering new relationship.

The one thing each couple coming to these private retreats have all had in common is a sincere desire to get at the truth of the matter in their relationship and to learn new effective ways of heartful communication, self-growth, and clarity of direction as an individual and as a couple.

IN ESSENCE: These private marriage counseling couples intensives teach you:

  • The art of cleaning and clearing old patterns;

  • Entering into a sacred heartful relationship of listening; and

  • Exploring and finding the emerging new truth of your relationship and its next pathway;

  • Honoring endings and new beginnings through a self-designed ceremony and respectful honoring of truth and conscious relationship.​

Message From Ronda

What Our Culture Fails to Teach Us About Being in Relationship.


I am always excited when I hear from a couple requesting a private retreat intensive with me because I know they will be astonished to discover why traditional talk therapy (while useful in many good ways) cannot bring about the revolutionary understanding of relationship as a spiritual journey - as a pathway for sharing and supporting healing self-awareness and truth-serving clarity in life (whether staying and growing to the next level together, or parting ways from love and honor).

The old sages called marriage: "The Way of The Householder". It is considered the most difficult of life paths... and many of us (myself included) can relate! Ram Das (a western philosopher) once said: "Think you're evolved or enlightened? Go spend a week with your parents"

Couples who come to work with me, universally are astonished ...and then intrigued, and then afraid, and then delighted, and then empowered by rediscovery of one's own subconscious blocks and early conditioning that have been stirring up, facilitating, and colliding with their partner and those with whom they are most close. 

The SoulArts one-on-one private retreat intensives for couples have become highly requested. This gives me hope. Hope that more couples will reach out, to step in, and reclaim the inner heart of relationship as a journey of personal-growth, integrity, and life purpose fulfilled.  It gives me hope that more people will find the lost art which culture fails to teach us: The art of true intimacy and the challenges of opening self-awareness, wisdom, peace and generosity as we naturally and consciously grow in relationship with ourselves first - and so, more authentically with others.

Haven't you heard (or even asked) this question:


"Why is it that those with whom I am most close and intimate are the ones that I often most hurt, argue with, deceive or who just plain press my hot buttons?"

And boy, when that question-code is cracked during this retreat, and a new self-dawning emerges, you will be amazed that the maze of conflict negotiating and psycho-cross analysis over just who's more at fault - STOPS. 


There is inner stillness.


And then comes hope (and a huge relief for most) while experiencing a new tool of communication that we call Soul Counsel for Couples (TM). 


This communication protocol we share, demonstrate, and guide starts from a clean slate of soulful self-reflection, personal truth and responsibility; it stops the circular cycles of finger-pointing, pouting, and positioning; it "cuts to the chase"; and re-establishes a pathway for clarity, personal character and the courage to follow your deepest truth while honoring and respecting the deepest truth of your partner.

My husband Matt and I have used this protocol since the beginning of our relationship. We have developed and refined this which I first learned the roots of when studying with a wise master-teacher - an elder, highly studied and respected older Jewish man of deep wisdom and no nonsense wizardry who is now in his 90's.  He not only guided me through my own deep psychology, spirituality, and mental-mind chatter, but he saved me decades of mistakes in relationship and in life during my 30's, 40's, 50's... and still counting...

My work with individuals and couples comes in large part from the mentoring style and impact this elder mentor had on my life. 


I am always tenderly touched when couples working and staying with us marvel in awe, that they had "no idea that this sort of understanding was available, and are stunned to have accomplished more in 2 1/2 days than years of counseling and other workshops".  


...If my life (now in my 60's) can save you a few decades (or a lifetime) of lost self-truth and old dysfunctional patterns of thought, then my life is of meaningful purpose.

ronda larue

Ojai, California