When marriage crisis is really a calling to the next playing field of self-growth, mature wisdom, and the true loving artistry.
Helping couples better understand psychological patterns from early wounds, conditioning, and subconscious blind spots that create colliding unconscious reactions and dysfunctional triggers in most marriages at some point along the way;
Helping individuals take an empowering self-responsibility for understanding the role and roots of projection/blame and entering into their own personal self-healing journey of growth and self-realization; and
Serving how to break through and awaken to the miracle that lays on the other side of relationship crisis (in those where both couples are ready and able -from the inherent disillusionment and end-cycle of “1st Level Secular Marriage” where old patterns and unconscious reactions collide and trigger until something – or someone – blows … (“He’s not meeting my needs” “Whatever I do for her is never enough” “We just lost the feeling” )
When 1st Level Secular Marriage has lived its lifecycle and/or has blown up through an acting out, loss of respect, infidelities, feelings of betrayal confounded resentments and confusion, there is a new potential in that mess for both people:
- There is a calling to discovery – to looking and seeing if their may be a new next level of maturity and love in the marriage – or to at the least, harvest the lessons learned and honor love by parting with care for self and one another. (We have even had couples – myself included in my former marriage – who created a divorce ceremony and reception with close family and friends to share the honorable departure from marriage. This kind of conscious care and responsible integrity creates a maturity of love-in-action that will attract a whole new love capacity.)
In many cases, if the old cycle is truly tended, and the old marriage patterns are symbolically released, it becomes the catalyst for a whole new level of love journey for the couple in their marriage… and then they enter onto a path of growing in love and marriage together in ways never before imaginable… That’s the best of the best.
Matt & Ronda: Then.... ... And Now
PRIVATE COUPLES WORKING WITH RONDA:
In the past several years I have received a large growing interest from married couples (or life-partnered couples) who contact me seeking help through difficult marital crossroads such as: an infidelity; loss of connection and intimacy; grief from the death of a child; empty nest “now what?”; or simply those seeking a whole new next level of relationship and soulful sharing. Many come to me who have tried and given up on traditional talk therapy, saying it only kept the fight and confusion going in circles until the therapist gave up. Many come as a “one last ditch effort” to see if renewal and healing is possible in their marriage – and if not, to finally gain that clarity, find their own next path of self-growth, and see if they can gain the communication skills to work together where possible with honor, respect and care.
This level of private work: offering to meet and share openly together at such an emotional and personal crossroad, is unique. I feel called to help people go where the only real healing I know exists: and that’s at a level of soul-self renewal. So in the way that I work with couples, I help to midwife a healing clarity and path for each individual separately as well as teaching each individual in the couple a new set of tools for navigating the marriage path from a soul-based focus of self-growth and personal responsibility.
Helping people in marriages at those very most crucial difficult crossroads is perhaps the best thing I can do in this life time. It has become a life Calling at this time in my life, because:
I’ve been there too! (See my personal story under Articles above and on my YouTube channel)
And I’ve found a way that I believe far far exceeds what’s out there today. I find it horridly sad to see so many couples in a crisis who finally reach out in desperation and who report having entered into traditional therapy and marriage counseling, only to find that the drama kept going and the therapist (or the couple – or both) threw up their hands and gave up. (Obviously there are exceptions and there are great professional marriage and family counselors who can be hugely helpful and effective for the right people – at the right time. See my article Why Talk Therapy Sometimes Isn’t The Answer for my own personal bias/perspective and with all due respect to the many excellent psychotherapists out there.)
But the biggest most important reason I do what I do, is because for me, at this stage in my life (at 60+) I can save people decades of loss and staying stuck in areas I too didn’t know how to heal once upon a time (and that most people never discover)! I experienced a perceptual breakthrough (shared in my first book: Remembering Who You Really Are – Amazon) and have been graced with a unique healing gift that bridges spiritual awakening with personal self-healing – by way of what I coined “SoulArts Living Meditation Practice” – an artfully playful and active meditative process that directly engages and enlivens you to your own inner magic and direct inner experience of insight and truth.
It is a blessing to help people who might not otherwise ever discover that there is actually a gift behind the suffering challenges that life throws our way – if we only but know the art and science and spirit of real transformation! .. .Whether a couple stays together or parts, there is a path of harvesting the lessons and honoring love – a path of integrity that to me is the crux of life’s journey of love-in-the-making…
2-Night Private Couples In-Residence Guided Intensive: (Temporarily unavailable due to Covid and relocation to Northeast. Please check with Ronda for more details on re-opening or join as Subscriber!.) I don’t know who else offers this level of safe-haven nourishing space in a private home spa setting alongside a guided depth process guiding personal individual clarity alongside a couples training in a whole new level of communication and soul-centered support (regardless of whether you find you are if moving together or apart). I know it sounds impossible to gain this much in such a short 2-night time, but it is not - and I know why it is not. This cannot be explained - only experienced. For this reason, the in-residence program it is by application and mutual sense of readiness.
Virtual 2-Night Private Couples Guided Intensive: Similar to the above program only conducted via technology for virtual sessions together (phone, zoom, etc). Details
Couples Clean Communication Meditation Practice (TM). Offering series of guided private one-on-one phone sessions in the art of learning, applying and deepening the self-growth journey of Couples Communication Meditation Practice: The most powerful tool I know for self-healing insight, personal responsibility and growth, and clarity for together honoring truth and new directions (together and apart). This program is offered by request and after having met or spoken together to ascertain readiness and appropriateness. Please reach out to Ronda for more.
Ronda LaRue offers a very novel approach to couples counseling, marriage relationship healing, personal growth and awakening. Beyond “talk therapy”, her couples work is revolutionary in its life-changing individual healing approaches, with specific and individually-tailored take home tools. Today people contact Ronda from all over the world to experience individual clarity, healing, new direction and communication together in marriages facing crisis, loss, infidelity, or other crossroads of stagnation.
Series of informational videos, interviews, and testimonials from couples who have worked with Ronda.